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Rotten Apples: Not So Bad - Chicago Burlesque Dancer Red Hot Annie Weinert
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Red Hot Annie / Ann Marie Weinert
Date: 2011-08-25 08:58
Subject: Rotten Apples: Not So Bad
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We had another packed evening at Lincoln Tap Room - the shows were great, the host was on it, and something about being surrounded by so many members of my own crew just made it feel more like home. Not that I don't love working with the community (I do.), but there are times when those one or two rotten apples really makes their presence known.

I've spent a lot of time in the last couple of weeks coming to terms with this aspect of so-called "success"...I guess you aren't really a "threat" until there's someone jumping in front of you and trying to stop you. I always wonder if those people have really considered the consequences of making things harder for someone like me - I'm a pretty ironclad lady, so when I encounter a challenging obstacle, I'm more likely to examine the details and chinks in the armor than to back away and say "that's too hard."

There'll be no "project failure!" I actually...just get better at what I'm doing. I don't mind putting in the research, changing my approach, and training others. And you can bet your bottom dollar that when I stop and think about it, the rotten apples get the credit for making it just challenging enough to be interesting!

Afterall, my favorite quote is:
"Defeat may serve as well as victory to shake the soul and let the glory out."

How does it work that way for you?
What makes an challenge worthwhile?
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User: pamelaneko
Date: 2011-08-25 18:46 (UTC)
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That's an interesting perspective.

I have never believed that another person could (or would) defeat me -- I have always considered defeat to be a self-driven result. Anyone who would oppose my goals strongly enough that it would affect me, must really believe in whatever personal goals they have that are conflicting to mine. There is no such thing as an arch enemy in my world. So when I sense conflict, I usually internalize for a re-check. Sometimes questioning myself can be a little TOO self-defeating... Generally it takes a lot of soul-searching and reassurance for me to oppose someone directly and forcefully.

A lot of people who talk about politics (DC's fave subject), speak in terms of good/bad, allies/enemies... But when I get down into the discussion, I have to acknowledge that even individuals who have views which strongly oppose my personally-appointed morals have their own perspectives and experiences which lead them to believe or desire something different for their own futures. And if that benefits them/their family, who am I to say they are WRONG and BAD? I can't. I can only focus more on making sure my goals are positive and good for the people/community/ideals I see as important, and making sure that I make the right decisions, and making sure I work extra hard to uphold my own standards for myself.
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Red Hot Annie / Ann Marie Weinert
User: redhotannie
Date: 2011-08-25 19:12 (UTC)
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I strongly agree with you on this, actually, Pam! I don't fault anyone for wanting to follow their personal goals...not anyone, no matter how much they conflict with mine.

However, there are also people who have and do intentionally place themselves in other's way - for example, by voting "no" on a deserving performer's application simply because you don't like them personally - or - reporting a facebook page for a fake name or pasty shot - or - reporting a show to the city in attempt to close it down...all situations which serve no explicit personal goals.

Are those things wrong or bad? Not really, but they certainly don't follow the Golden Rule!

And my post is decidely about how those roadblocks just make people (like me, anyways) dig deeper and find more creative solutions!
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