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Staying and Keeping - Chicago Burlesque Dancer Red Hot Annie Weinert
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Red Hot Annie / Ann Marie Weinert
Date: 2011-04-28 08:01
Subject: Staying and Keeping
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Amidst so many small projects and little gigs and (still!) having to finish the studio painting and video editting (Keith), things have been a little hectic around here. Both K & I are struggling with the part of ourselves that just wants to stop and finish a project.

We have to keep reminding ourselves that it doesn't matter how it gets done (an hour here, an hour there), eventually it will all get done, and a year from now, it won't matter that we had to do it piecemeal. But it's a real struggle for me, right now - making me want to cancel appointments and gigs to wrap things up.

I was talking with a new client yesterday and they asked what my husband does for a living. Inevitably, they followed it up with commentary on how it must be nice to have a partner with a steady income as a safety net. And it is - of course - so I agreed and the conversation moved on.

But afterwards, the tone kinda stuck with me. The conversation had been about how much our business can ebb/flow and how tight money can get. I can't be sure, but I think the implication was that if I don't make money, my husband is there to pick up the slack. Which is theoretically true.

But...I've been fully self-employed for over 5 years, and in those 5 years, I've paid for every household utility/association fee, all of my living expenses, let alone the vast majority of luxury expense that I have. I have never dropped under an income where I couldn't live quite comfortably on my own, so I'm not definitely not dependent, let alone a kept woman. In fact, we don't even have a joint checking account. And I think, in all that time, my husband has paid for one bill I couldn't pay...and I paid him back! ;)

I wasn't offended. I mean, I do get it - afterall, unlike many jobs where you could do research and find the average income, people have no information on which to determine or guess how much money I make - and I'm happy to have polite friends who don't just ask! :P It's just funny, because in 2011, this conversation has come up so many times in various incarnations with people who know me on varying levels. And some of the implications have been far more blunt (someone who knows me very well letting me know I could use free services if I make less than a certain amount of money, for example!).

Perhaps that's why this particular conversation sort of stuck with me.

Have things been tight, occassionally? Of course.
But not for longer than I can remember.

And, last night, I relayed the conversation to Keith while we were making one of our favorite new dishes ( homemade pesto, yum!) and he looked at me kinda cockeyed, and said, "You're your own safety net."
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Don Alsafi
User: duck2ducks
Date: 2011-04-28 15:31 (UTC)
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That is the BEST response ever!

Also, hilarious icon for this post. :D
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AynAtonal: flirty
User: aynatonal
Date: 2011-04-28 16:57 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Heh. As someone who just *had* a version of this convo with you, it's interesting to hear that it's been a theme in your life recently!
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Red Hot Annie / Ann Marie Weinert
User: redhotannie
Date: 2011-04-28 17:19 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
True! That's been just one of probably 7-8 similar combos! But I liked ours the best. :)
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half of me is ocean, half of me is sky
User: snickersaddict
Date: 2011-04-28 19:00 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
He always has the best answer!
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